I've only been to a couple of tractor pulls in my life, but I learned a life lesson that has stayed with me for the next couple of decades. See, it's all in the Sled: If you watch the sled in a tractor pull, they all start with the weight at the back. But as it pulls across the dirt or mud, the weight shifts to the front, closer to the wheels of the tractor, and in the end, almost all of them bog down. Here's a link:
If you watch a couple of them (careful, it's addictive), you'll see the weight, which is painted bright yellow in front, moving up on the sled as the tractors move down the track. Many of the tractors go so far and then start spinning their wheels, have to stop or even blow an engine.
I use this analogy when clients wonder why they're having a problem Now, when they haven't had a problem before or thought they were "over all that stuff." We're so strong and capable of putting things away that we just take off in our lives while that weight creeps up to the back of our tires. Some of us can carry it farther than others, but most of us bog down at some point.
This can take the form of getting very angry, becoming depressed, drinking too much, health problems such as heart attacks, ulcers, etc. There are a lot of ways that things can go wrong when we carry that weight for years. In a way, the stronger we are the more it works against us. The good news is that the weight can be lessened or lifted entirely and you can continue on your way without that weight holding you back.
If you go into a gym and you see someone working with a physical trainer, do you think to yourself "Wow, that guy's (or gal's) really sick?" Most of us will think that someone who has a trainer is serious about their workout and dedicated to achieving their physical health goals. I hear over and over again that coming into therapy equates to being weak or sick, when it is exactly the opposite; getting help when you need it takes a lot of strength and courage, and usually a lot of carrying the load for a long time already.
The stigma that we still attach to therapy is unfortunate and unwarranted. When we struggle in life, we reach out to friends, family, people in our circle that we admire and trust. Therapy is simply another avenue for getting answers, moving ahead, feeling better. Sitting with someone who doesn't judge and gives perspective in a calm and rational space can be very freeing and positive. If you are considering getting into therapy, try to focus more on the positive possibilities that are likely just around the corner for you!
It is an Exciting time to be opening a new practice! The preparation, the decision-making, Business licenses and Utilities, trying to figure out why this Blog Page puts every word in caps - all of the things that we go through to open and run a small business.
And, of course, some of that excitement is anxiety. Will I be successful? Is this a good move? Have I covered my bases? Those questions are allayed a bit by 10 years as a therapist , having been in private practice for 4 years before I moved from colorado and being part of a great private practice in cumming for the past 3 years.
So, not such a "Grand" opening as much as a continuation of a satisfying and successful career as a therapist, helping adults with issues such as ADHD, OCD, anxiety, Depression, Relationship issues and alcohol and Drug problems. And I have great hope that I'll be able to figure out the caps thing in Time!
Andy Anderson, LPC